A Dad in the Diaconate

Posted on: December 6, 2019 2:00 pm
Tags: Vocation, Volunteer, Associates,

Adam Feinauer of Fort Wright, Kentucky, is a dad, a husband, an SND Associate, and a St. Agnes parishioner. He is also studying to become a Permanent Deacon at The Athenaeum of Ohio / Mount St. Mary’s Seminary in Cincinnati, Ohio. 

When did you start thinking about becoming a deacon? 

I have been drawn to the diaconate for over 30 years. Even when I was in my teens and early twenties, the priesthood was on my mind. Marriage and having children were more dominant, however, and won out. Serving God never left my mind, though. God was still guiding me on a path to service that would not interfere with my vocation to be a husband and father, and so I was able to provide some service and ministry within my parish as time allowed. I looked into the diaconate in my early thirties, before I had children, and when I turned 40. After some serious praying and discerning, I realized the time was not right because my children were still young. God has plans for us, and it was not my place to rush them. I began my third and hopefully final process towards the diaconate a little over three years ago. I believe God told me, “It’s time.” God willing, I will be ordained as a Permanent Deacon in the spring of 2022. 

What does your family think about your becoming a deacon? 

My wife Sherri is very excited and supportive. My children say they are happy for me, however, at 21 showing excitement is not one of their top priorities. My extended family is all very happy for me and many said that they saw it coming. 

What made you decide to become a deacon? 

This is the one question that does not have an easy or canned answer. It has been a life’s journey with God by my side at all times, speaking to me and guiding me along the way. I am definitely not a learned man when it comes to scripture (don’t ask me to quote any chapters and verse), Church teachings, or dogmas. I am not the superstar of service to my faith community, but I love God with all my heart, all my soul, and all my mind. Am I perfect? No. But has God only ever called on those who thought they were perfect? 

Life and God had other plans for me, very systematic plans, as I look back. So why a deacon and why now? I can only answer it in one way, God said it is time. Why me, I do not know. I have a lot to learn and do before I become a deacon, and God-willing when that day comes, I will still have a lot to learn and do, and you know, God is worth it. He knows what he is doing with me and at times I am just along for the ride, but he has never let me down and will not do it here either, regardless of the outcome. I have absolute faith that he knows what he is doing. And yes, I will question him as to why and what he is doing to me. And I will tell him many times that there is no way I can do this. And he will tell me to relax and let him worry about that-yeah, like that is going to happen! But, as always, he wins at the end, and I will listen to him and do as he asks. 

What have you learned so far in this process? 

At the time of writing this, I have only had one weekend of classes so far, and there is no doubt that this is going to be a challenging journey. Granted, I did not go into this naively thinking it would be easy, but I have to admit that I was not expecting or prepared for the workload. What I have learned from this, however, is that in order to serve God the way that he deserves to be served, honored, and glorified, I have to put some time and effort into being his servant. It will be challenging; however, it will also be one of the most satisfying and rewarding journeys that I will ever go on. I have learned that there are a lot of people behind me on this. I was not expecting that. I just figured the routine answer when I told people would be, “That’s nice.” That answer was farthest from the truth. God puts people into your life at the right time and for a reason, and he has you doing the things that you do for a reason. For the first 25 years of my life, it was getting a good education and getting prepared for life. The second 25 years was for getting married, raising a family, and all that is entailed with it. For the next 25 years and beyond (I hope) it will be the accumulation of the previous 50 years, in addition to giving God what he deserves: my time, treasure, and talents. I will never be able to repay him for everything that he has done for my family and me, and I am not becoming a deacon for that reason, but if it is what God is calling me to do, then I am going to do what he asks of me. How could I not?

Alison Feinauer
Date: on December 15, 2019

Adam I am so glad that you are doing this and following how the Lord is leading you. Many blessings on you and Sherri as you keep following hard after what God has for you and how he will use your willing hearts and hands.

Lisa Duerk
Date: on December 11, 2019

Congratulations Adam on your journey. I know you will be a great gift to any parish you serve as well as being rewarded yourself from the Spirit wherever He takes you from here!

Dawn Heckman
Date: on December 10, 2019

Congratulations! So proud of you Adam!

Christina Swafford
Date: on December 10, 2019

Adam. I am So excited for you and your journey growing ever so closer to God. Sending encouragement you and your wonderful family ❤️

Michelle Schmidt
Date: on December 10, 2019

Great Job Uncle Adam! We are proud of you.

Beverly Carr Baynum
Date: on December 10, 2019

So proud of you Adam! God will be with you on this beautiful journey.

Mark Tobler
Date: on December 10, 2019

Congratulations. Adam God bless

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